I'm a big fan of what's your grief, Eleanor and Litsa's blog or web page. Whatever it is, it covers just about any kind of loss or grief or bereavement you will encounter, from losing a pet or life partner to lost hopes and dreams. There are favorite posts I like to go back to. A great one is what not to say to a griever. I added "I know how you feel" to their list. There are so many countless individual things that affect how each of us thinks and feels about death and reacts to it, in general and with a particular loss. You can't possibly know I feel and there's no way I can know what's happening in your head or heart. I am not you and you are not me.
Another favorite is Eleanor's personal story of dealing with her mother's death. Eleanor is an introvert. Anyone who is pretty far over on the "I" side of Meyers-Briggs will relate to her introverts and grief post in a big way. She is looking at the funeral home's back door, wishing she could get out of there and handle it in her own introvert way and not have to deal with all the people there. I was hooked when she wrote that. I knew she would have more to say that would make good sense to introverts even if others think there's something wrong with us that needs to be fixed.
Where you fall on the introvert/extrovert scale is one of the things that has a lot to do with the way you handle death. If you think you are one or the other or even if you're one of the pretty well balanced folks with some traits from both sides, I do hope you will read that one. It might help you to understand those who are strongly over on one side or the other when grief comes into their lives and they don't deal with it the way you would. And do take a look at my blog Introverts are Interesting.
Wait a minute. Hold everything. Litsa just did a post about preserving her late father's beautiful handwriting. Some grandly creative ideas, even if your penmanship is like mine and it's the worst possible thing you'd want to be saved.