When we die

Do I think and wonder about what happens when you die?  Not a whole lot. I know all the theories, beliefs and proofs from those who died, went to heaven or hell and came back to write a book about it. I have lots of interest in religion and spirituality in its endless and varied forms and styles. But I don't talk about it here.  If you need spiritual counsel there are countless places to find it.  I don't do that. If you seek help dealing with death or any kind of grief, there is splendid help on the internet and probably right where you live. This blog is just my observations about death and how we deal with it.

But seriously, folks

There's a popular site that shows a picture of your gravestone with the date you will die and how it happened.  I don't need to know when and I already know how.  I will babble baby talk as I expire from a dreadful feline disease that I got from kissing my cats.  Real men kiss cats

Alright, how can I write so lightly about death? I answer with a question. Will it help me or anybody else if I talk about death with great sadness, grief, fear and dread?  Maybe it's because I'm quite terribly old.  If I was ever afraid of death, it was a long time ago.

Favorite posts from "What's your grief"

I'm a big fan of what's your grief,  Eleanor and Litsa's blog or web page.  Whatever it is,  it covers just about any kind of loss or grief or bereavement you will encounter, from losing a pet or life partner to lost hopes and dreams.  There are favorite posts I like to go back to. A great one is what not to say to a griever.  I added "I know how you feel" to their list. There are so many countless individual things that affect how each of us thinks and feels about death and reacts to it,  in general and with a particular loss.  You can't possibly know I feel and there's no way I can know what's happening in your head or heart. I am not you and you are not me.

Another favorite is Eleanor's personal story of dealing  with her mother's death.  Eleanor is an introvert.  Anyone who  is pretty far over on the "I" side of Meyers-Briggs will relate to her  introverts and grief  post in a big way.  She is looking at the funeral home's back door, wishing she could get out of there and handle it in her own introvert way and not have to deal with all the people there. I was hooked when she wrote that.  I knew she would have more to say that would make good sense to introverts even if others think there's something wrong with us that needs to be fixed.

Where you fall on the introvert/extrovert scale is one of the things that has a lot to do with the way you handle death.  If you think you are one or the other or even if you're one of the pretty well balanced folks with some traits from both sides,  I do hope you will read that one. It might help  you to understand those who are strongly over on one side or the other when grief comes into their lives and they don't deal with it the way you would.  And do take a look at my blog Introverts are Interesting.
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Wait a minute. Hold everything. Litsa just did a post about preserving her late father's beautiful handwriting.  Some grandly creative ideas, even if your penmanship is like mine and it's the worst possible thing you'd want to be saved.