Sunday, October 15, 2017

Wrong about death?

I don't relate to the posts about death and grieving that I see on Facebook. Is there something wrong with me? There are lots of things wrong with me.  But the way I deal with death is not one of them.  We are all different.  Our attitudes and feelings about death are shaped by countless factors, beliefs and experiences.  Age is a big part of it. My grandmother died when I was seven.  That was eighty years ago. Facebookers are half my age.  Or younger.

Why does the 1940 Cadillac keep showing up here?  Maybe it's a guy thing. I hope some guy who is into classic cars will spot it and take a peek at what the blog is about.  It would be good  to know that men read something about death that's written by a man and find something helpful in it.

Monday, March 27, 2017



That's what it's about...Talk About Death Right Now.  Your own. Your parents. Anyone you care about. Talk about it with family if you can.  If you can't talk with a family member, find someone who can.  It needs to be done.

Saturday, June 25, 2016

Family conflict when parents die.

Some manner of family conflict is pretty close to inevitable when parents get old and die. Sometimes it heals after a while, other times it splits families forever.  It's not a good idea to say "It won't happen to us." Maybe you'll get lucky and it won't. But being prepared for it and how to deal with it is a better idea.

Thursday, February 25, 2016

What's this blog about?

It's not therapy, comfort for the bereaved or grief support.  There are lots of individuals and groups doing that.  It's just an old guy's ponderings and meanderings about  more deaths than I can count or even remember. I write mostly for me but there's that faint hope that somebody will stumble upon it and find something they can relate to.

Thursday, February 11, 2016

Guys and grief

Do men and women grieve differently?  Of course. Are there exceptions?  Sure. 
I might try a local group if there is one for guys, moderated by a male person.

Monday, August 31, 2015

Old Folks, New Love

There's a nice older song, "Love is lovelier the second time a
round." It's heart warming to see an older widow or widower find new love.  I like to see it but I don't envy it.  At this time in my life I need to be alone. That's another one that goes in the category of  "We are all different and there is no right or wrong way to deal with death."

Friday, August 28, 2015

Do it now!

The tadrn address stands for "Talk About Death Right Now."  I am quite passionate about taking care of as many end-of-life details as I can before it happens.  No doubt there are friends and family who are, to put it mildly, uncomfortable about that.  I am not depressed.  I do not plan to shuffle off to Buffalo (that's an old song) or anyplace else very soon.  It's just something I need to do. And I would be happy if more people did it.