Some manner of family conflict is pretty close to inevitable when there is a death in the family. When I see it happening I imagine the deceased person painfully watching, saying "Get over it! If you want me to rest in peace, quit your squabbling and come together as a family."
It's especially painful when the last parent dies and there's an estate to be settled.
Sometimes it heals after a while, other times it splits families forever. It's not a good idea to say "It won't happen to us." Maybe you'll get lucky and it won't. But being prepared for it and how to deal with it is a better idea. Get a lawyer. Get a funeral director. Make your wishes known. Get it done.
